Is relaxing just for weaklings?
I had a phase there for a while where all I wanted to do was work.
Those few years came in two parts though.
The first was when I was completely ~*~infatuated~*~ with what I was doing and couldn’t wait to let more people know about it.
And the second was because that was all I could tolerate doing.
The first phase was energising and exciting.
The second was draining and isolating. I put my whole source of value, my sense of worth, into my work.
Eventually there came a point where I’d let everything else in my life go.
But, incredibly, I didn’t see that at the time.
All I felt was a curling at my edges when I heard people talk about doing things like ‘craft’, or other activities that had no discernable production aspect to them.
Hobbies just seemed like a contemptible waste of time. I had them lumped in the same category as squandering my life watching TV every night.
Not only had I missed why I was feeling so drained…I made that emptiness mean I needed a juicier goal…
…which created the sort of interesting, vicious-cycle consequences you can probably already picture.
My increasing resentment and judgment towards people who didn’t work as hard as I did seemed to be other people’s fault and nothing to do with me.
This, Networkers, is called workaholic burn out.
Fortunately life intervened in the only way that would catch my attention – with a gob smacking series of stressful events that finally brought me to a standstill.
And eventually, from that more humble perspective, a few things dawned on me.
The first is that, as we looked at in the last blog, resting is a crucial part of productivity.
If this goose is not in good shape, there can’t be any golden eggs – not for long, anyway.
Even Scott Alexander (reknowned for telling it straight and working hard) practially had this concept spelled out in capitals in his book Rhinoceros Success.
Suddenly I could see the need a rhino has for wallowing lazily in a mudhole regularly.
But the person who’s voice reached me most clearly was Brene Brown (I’ve put some of her resources below).
So, do you have challenges slowing down?
What’s one non-work related thing you could do today that feeds your soul?
Let me know in the comments.
See you on the road,
PS If you have no clue what your soul-feeding thing might be, then Brene’s book ‘The Gifts of Imperfection’ is going to help a lot.
You can use my affiliate link below – or go to your library and get it for FREE!
See you on the road,