Goal setting happens a lot around New Years. How do you go about it?
My favourite New Years Eves have been spent:
- with delicious snacky food (smoked salmon, olives, dark chocolate);
- sans alcohol (instead we’d have something like fizzy water in a jug with handfuls of mint)…
- and with notebook and pen, for goal setting: what do I want to be, do or have this year?
Last year though, inspired by Denise Duffield-Thomas, what I wrote in that notebook was a bit different.
I took an hour to write down 50 AMAZING things I’d done that year.
Sounds over indulgent?
Not quite driven enough?
Well yes, in the beginning it was tough to climb over those thoughts, but Denise does some great stuff and I was willing to give it a go.
And it was so worth it.
But at first it sucked.
I got to 12 and thought *ARGH* how can I think up 38 more of these #@$%&*@?
But when I stuck with it, I made it way past 50.
It was a tremendous dose of ‘wow’ to see what I’d actually achieved in those 12 months.
Becuase like many type A personalities I’m drawn to focusing on what I haven’t done, what’s still outstanding, where I’m falling short…
This exercise was a delicious relief from all of that.
It was like taking my foot off my own throat for an hour and having a good look at what I’d really achieved, even though I’d been thinking I hadn’t done much.
So if you’re keen to give it a go, here’s the how-tos:
1 Have a friend or partner do this with you – when you get stuck they can ask you: “and what else?”
It might be that you set some goals, or stuck with your business. Maybe you attended some events (list each of them as a seperate list item) or enrolled new customer/s or distributor/s. Perhaps you were really there for your kids. Or you did something fitness oriented. Did you stand up for yourself somehow in an area of your life that really matters to you?
2 Listen carefully for the voice of your inner critic who wants to poo-poo your achievements and say they weren’t any good or they didn’t last or they weren’t such a big deal.
That voice is WRONG.
3 Stick. With. It.
Writing down 50 or more of these things really creates a shift in perspective. You start to see that you CAN instead of that you can’t.
So try it this year.
Find someone to do it with you and make a night of it.
Once you’ve got 50 things or more (I got 70 written down last year), turn your mind to things you’d like to achieve this year.
From that space of can and appreciating yourself jot down just 5 or 10 things.
And hey presto:
There are your goals for 2018!
See you on the road,
PS I’d love to hear about your 2017 adventures – jump into the comments below and tell me something you did GREAT this year :o)
Seriously, I love hearing from you x
See you on the road,