Network marketing is like marmite
I’ve heard it said that network marketing is like marmite: you either love it or you hate it.
Well, I hated it.
My parents had ‘done’ a large company when I was in my very early teens and it had made my dad’s toes curl.
Mum wanted to succeed, but her confidence was very low, and by the time she’d come up against some negativity, she just gave up and pretended it had never happened.
In my twenties, as a massage practitioner, I got approached a couple of times by people with a hungry look in their eye (you can read about one of those experiences HERE).
I fended those approaches like Jonah Lomu dashing to the try line (that’s a rugby union reference…I’m from New Zealand) and felt pretty proud of myself with the quality of my put-downs.
It makes me cringe a little thinking back on that.
And then, I read Rich Dad Poor Dad.
I immediately fell in love with the idea of ‘getting the money thing done’.
My husband and I started investing in property.
And I quit a Masters degree to build my massage practice into a business.
Pretty soon I was working 80 hour weeks and my husband was working full time as a teacher.
We had no money but were incredibly busy and stretched.
Into the midst of this we threw a puppy (possibly to test a subconscious ‘should we have children?’ hypothesis). We’d each dash home during the day to see him.
Against that backdrop, I noticed my neighbours were at home all day.
I watched them take their kids to school together.
I saw them go on holiday as a family for the whole of every school holidays to their little house by the sea.
I remember my crushing disappointment when my husband came home from a bike ride with our neighbour.
He relayed the news that our neighbours lived that way because they did network marketing.
My heart just sank.
They’d seemed so nice!
I had objections by the truckload when I first truly examined network marketing.
I was very skeptical and my questions showed it (eg ‘how are you doing this and being so human? You just don’t seem like network marketers.’)
But that couple were so content with their lives and where they were headed. I wanted what they had, and crucially, they didn’t need me.
It meant I felt safe enough to really look.
I’d never tried it, because I didn’t like it.
But I’d never found anyone building their business for their own dream. Not a glossy, photogenic dream. But a glowing-from-the-inside, live-and-let-live, there’s more-than-enough kind of dream.
A lot of people, like I did, love to hate the industry.
And tragically a lot of distributors validate that persepctive by being needy and pushy caricatures of themselves in the rush to ‘get’ people.
So my question today is: how are you doing with that?
Who are you being in your business?
Are you all over people like a rash?
Are you treating people like numbers?
Are you faking it til you make it, but only feeling like a fake?
Don’t get me wrong. You need to ask people to look at your business.
You can’t build a network just by crossing your fingers and visualising.
But who you are being in that process dramatically affects everybody’s experience – especially yours.
What do you think?
Have you had a similar experience yet? Let me know in the comments section below.
See you on the road,
PS I think a lot of things drive that needy, pushy thing. You can unpack some of those issues in the 21 Day Challenge.
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