10 reasons people join your lucky friend’s network

10 reasons people join your lucky friend's network marketing business…while you struggle., am article by Crawford Miller of ibuiltanetwork.com
May 18 2015

10 reasons people join your lucky friend’s network

Ever wonder why people join your lucky friend’s network marketing business while you struggle?

Let’s say you’re called Sally, and your friend is called Brenda. You each have a network marketing business.

You’ve been doing this for several weeks or months now, and although you’ve had some results, in that same period of time Brenda has personally enrolled 5 new team members and at least double that number of customers.

Frankly, it’s driving you insane, and your teeth can’t take any more abuse from your clenching them so much.

Why do some people have all the luck?!

While luck does bless us all at different times, often there are things each of us can influence and change which, when applied over time, can keep us on an upward trajectory whether Lady Luck is visiting at our place this week or not.

Let’s have a look at why network marketers like Brenda are getting better results:

  • They’re professional. Brenda takes care with her appearance.

Her scent is not over powering (that includes ‘nice’ smells – excessive perfume is too much when you’re trying to have a conversation);

She dresses like she cares what she put on this morning.

She’s on time, she keeps her word and she can be trusted to do what she said she was going to do. NOTE this doesn’t mean Brenda has all the answers. She’s willing to say she doesn’t know the answer…but she finds the answer inside the time frame she promised to get it.

  • They’re excited. Brenda knows what she has in her hands, and she knows what she wants to bring into her life with it.

Her own reasons for building this business are very clear to her – and she has an inner thirst for getting after goals that really mean a lot to her. They might not be the same things you want Sally, but they mean the world to her.

  • They’re honest. Brenda is ethical and fair. She has a reputation for being someone that does the right thing, even if it means delayed gratification for her own business. She doesn’t over promise and under deliver: she under-promises and over-delivers. 
  • They’re committed. Brenda is there at everything. She is at trainings. She’s at business briefings. She’s there at big and small events.

But not because she has to be (grumble-grumble, my upline is making me come to all this stuff I don’t have time for, but they’ll be mad if I don’t go…).

She’s there because she WANTS to be, because she wants to learn this stuff, she wants to meet the people teaching it, and she wants to share the experience with her team mates, even if only one of them comes with her. Which brings us to the next influential attitude…

  • They’re responsible. Brenda understands this is HER business. Not her sponsor’s. Not her team’s. Not the company’s.

She is running her business and putting in the big effort it requires for her own benefit, not because she’s being obedient to her sponsor or going through the motions. She does it willingly, even when it’s hard.

It’s like she owns a fabulous car and wants to learn how to drive it for herself. She’s really clear about that – she doesn’t want to sit in the passenger seat – she wants to drive this thing herself.

This attitude radiates out of a person, and people want to be around it. Brenda attracts people to her team with the responsibility she is taking for upgrading her life. She resents no one. Which is a good segway to the next difference…

  • They’re teachable. It’s her own business, and she’s at the wheel…but Brenda’s not a know-all.

 She doesn’t elbow people out of the way, or talk over them, when they have more experience than her.

She watches, and practices, with the express purpose of learning how to do it herself and to be able to teach these skills to others.

Some people are too technical with this process – you need to be a warm human being if you’re going to grow a really vibrant network.

And some are too huge on people pleasing – they constantly defer to successful leaders in a self-deprecating way, and so they never assume ownership of their business.

It’s a balance.

Brenda embraces Denis Waitley’s definition of humility:

‘You’re as good as the best, and no better than the rest’.

She’s willing to learn, and she backs herself by putting it into practice.

Brenda will ask for help, but she’s independent too. She steps up, not to be obedient or impressive, but because she wants to – her goals mean a lot to her.

  • They’re growing. Brenda does personal development every day. She’s listening to recordings, she’s reading books, she’s applying what she’s learning.

Friends and family can sense the change…

She’s taking more care with her appearance, she’s more engaged when other people are communicating with her, and she’s more focused.

Her faith in herself is taking root – she is quietly backing herself.

She isn’t defensive and stroppy when people knock her business. She radiates a sense of certainty about what she’s doing.

People notice.

This includes a big benefit of marketing through MLM…

  • They’ve had a product result. It took a few weeks for Brenda to really notice the difference from using the products so she leaned heavily on other people’s stories about their own results.

Her own story developed because she replaced competing products she was using at home with her company’s.

Using the products or services consistently for those first few weeks meant she developed her own experience and became a walking billboard for this company’s mission.

Now as well as the library of stories she has from other people’s experience, she has her own results she can share with friends and family.

  • Their values are defined. Brenda knows what matters to her, and prioritizes things accordingly.

‘Keeping other people happy’ is no longer a high priority for her if it means making herself smaller, or not rocking the boat.

Her goals are important to her now.

She still respects the people she loves, but she has realized some things need to change if she’s going to achieve the things that really matter to her.

She has realized there is no secret formula for success, but there is a recipe for failure: try and please everyone.

  • They believe it. Brenda absolutely knows people can achieve their dreams with this company. And she knows she is going to go the distance. She is going to learn how to do this right, and then work diligently until she cracks it. 

Her comfort zone doesn’t get the chance to drip gooey doubt all over the machinery of her part time business.

She’s sick of doubt and all of its ‘can’t be done’ and ‘you’ll never make it’. She’s looked hard at where listening to that kind of stuff has got her in life, and she’s decided to back herself instead.

She’s seen the people who’ve replaced their incomes with this company, and if they can do it, then she can too.

She’s a stayer. She’s got stickability and she’s willing to learn new things.

She knows people can count on her to share this journey with them because she’s not going to let anyone down by giving up. People can sense that. They want what she’s having, and they don’t want to be left behind.

Her belief is contagious. She doesn’t know everything, and she’s not even making significant money yet, but she’s leading herself in the direction of her own dreams, and so people trust her to help them do the same.

  • They are prepared. I know I said there were 10 reasons…but I’m throwing this one in on the topic of luck while we’re on the subject. Luck, as Seneca said, is the place where preparation meets opportunity.

Opportunity happens to all of us. It happens at different times. But in the span of a year or so, the same number of ‘lucky’ breaks show up for all of us.

Brenda is ready. She is tenacious (one of the most precious qualities a person can have). Let’s summarise:

  • She’s presented well,
  • She believes in herself and this opportunity,
  • She’s learned some great skills (because she does personal development and participates in all the trainings),
  • She’s focused on her goals,
  • She’s committed to her business (she brings her whole self to the time she makes for it),
  • She really understands what she’s offering because she’s learned a LOT in these early weeks and months of building her business from her, sometimes painful, mistakes,
  • She’s tenacious. She turns all the times she’s got it wrong and bungled her explanations and missed out because she didn’t know what to say, into ways to learn about how to do it next time.

So when she sponsors people, I guess she is lucky.

She was prepared when those opportunities arose – and she created most of those opportunities by consistently calling people and asking if they wanted to look at this business she is building.

None of these amazing-Brenda-skills COSTS you anything you can’t afford – they are all FREE to implement, it’s only your attitude which needs to shift.

So go ahead and start applying some of these thing.  Because as my upline said to me:

You don’t have to wait for your ship to come in, you can swim out and get it!


Log into the comments section below and let me know which of these ideas resonated with you the most – how many of them are you already doing? And how many are you going to start doing today?

See you on the road,
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Hi, I'm Helen Jamieson, the author of The Networker - a novel created from experiences on the road to creating over USD $1million with my network marketing business. The book is a fable, a novel, about Sally, a feisty mother of two young children. Sally's feeling exhausted by her job, her lack of money and her negative spouse. Surely successful people didn't have to deal with obstacles like hers? The story follows her into, under and round those obstacles on her quest to take back control of her life using network marketing.

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